A Course in Love & Healing 
 
Lesson 41

Hospicing Out-Midwifing In

By Scott & Shannon Peck 
Co-Founders, TheLoveCenter

We can hospice out what no longer belongs in our lives while, simultaneously, midwifing in what is seeking to give birth within us.

When we heard this healing statement at a recent conference, we felt an immediate and liberating shift in consciousness.

All that “struggle” we all carry with us into each day – the struggle to be better, to achieve our dreams, to find greater satisfaction in love, to discard habits no longer serving us – can be eased out with gentleness and love. Rather than letting our struggles cause us to feel frustration, anxiety, and anger, we can gently hospice out what no longer belongs. 

Think of what it means to hospice – gentleness, tenderness, acceptance, non-judgment, patience, listening, compassion, and lovingkindness as we stay with someone in transition. This is how we can stay with ourselves as our own transformation unfolds. We can do this with others as well – giving both of us the emotional atmosphere for transformative life healing.

Our hearts, of course, naturally want to leap in a single bound from our dark places to the light and final transformation, but real life transformations occur more in slow motion.

As we sat there at the conference (Association for Global New Thought & Institute for Noetic Sciences), this new hospicing out the old caused our hearts to feel so much more peace. So much more gentleness towards ourselves. So much more patience and tenderness to others.

Then the other piece of the puzzle slid into place. We are all, even as we read these words together, giving birth to new ideas, new ways of being, higher living possibilities, and more open, expanding hearts. This too unfolds so slowly sometimes that we wonder if we are indeed even capable of progressive change and transformation. Yet this is the very birthing of our expanding identity. And, like hospicing out the old, this birthing calls for immense patience and joy as the new within us gathers clarity, strength, and identity, allowing the unconscious to surface in order to make higher decisions of greater freedom.

Again, our hearts and minds may be pushing hard for the “new” to get the heck in here, but the midwife within us has the bigger soul picture. We are giving birth to so much more than we can even envision and the process of our birthing is as important as any final outcome. In fact, as spiritually-wise beings, we know within our midwifing soul that our soul birthing will never stop. Our lives are in a constant mode or ascending – whether we like it or not. So being a midwife to the soul – and being there for other’s soulful birthing – is a place of great beauty and grace, even if full of unknowns.

Now, what magic happens when we combine hospicing and midwifing? Simultaneously hospicing out the old while, at the same exact moment, midwifing in the new brings unity, rather than separation, to our lives and soul. We are living this very moment in the process of ascending many deaths & rising into vast new birthings. As our new hospice-midwife consciousness takes hold, our hearts can take a deep breath and relax. This is a new, real way to live our lives.

Looking out from this new window of our heart, our love spills forward with more infinite, patient gentleness, grace, & understanding. Is there anyone you know who doesn’t need such hospicing-midwifing love? This is what real love – soulful love – feels like and looks like. This is the love we, ourselves, deserve – and can give ourselves! This is the love we can give to every being in the universe. Let the grace of this beautiful idea of hospicing & midwifing take gentle root in your thought and life. Welcome to the heart of Love!